Posts tagged ‘kids’

November 5, 2010

My son is gay (via Nerdy Apple Bottom)

by d

I’m re-blogging this because it’s important, and it’s awesome.

This blogger, Nerdy Apple Blossom, has a son who is five years old. He wanted to be Daphne for Halloween this year. She had no problem with it, and he was initially ecstatic. It was only as the big day approached that he began to worry. She reassured him, but he still feared that he would be laughed at.

Instead of children teasing other children (which may not have had the ‘you’re gay and going to HELL!’ connotation) they were BOTH treated to a round of busybody mothers who felt it was their business to critique.

NAB’s response is wonderful. Her son is going to grow up to be a brave, confident young man, because he has witnessed his mother do that very thing. I hope he was able to enjoy the rest of the day. And I hope he got LOTS of candy.

My son is gay

My son is gay.

Or he’s not. I don’t care. He is still my son. And he is 5. And I am his mother. And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don’t want to know you. I have gone back and forth on whether I wanted to post something more in-depth about my sweet boy and his choice of Halloween costume. Or more specifically, the reactions to it. I figure if I’m still irked by it a few days later, I may as well go ahead and post my thoughts. Here are th … Read More

via Nerdy Apple Bottom

October 14, 2010

It Gets Better

by d

Dan Savage is one of my favorite people. I never miss a Savage Love column.

He is a gay man, in a long-term relationship with his partner. They have a son. They are a happy, stable, loving family.

But their lives weren’t always so pleasant.

And that is why Dan has founded the It Gets Better Project, to reach out to young people who feel hopeless. It is for LGBTQ kids, but also for anyone who has suffered bullying or public shaming. The message is simple, and heartfelt. It gets better. You won’t always in middle or high school, you won’t always live with a family that doesn’t understand. The plea is wrought with emotion: Stick around, don’t give up on life before it can get better!

Below the cut are embedded videos, amazing videos submitted by people who want to tell kids that it gets better. Or, watch them all here:

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September 14, 2010

Unemployed? Just have a baby!

by d
Mosaic: Babies aren't cheap

Mosaic: Babies aren't cheap

This headline made me stop in my tracks: “Forget the Job Hunt. Have a Baby Instead.” I read on, not sure what to make of the argument within:

Hey, girls! Here’s an idea for what to do if you’re unemployed: Have a baby. Your first reaction is probably that this is a throwback to the 1950s. But it’s not. This is the most up-to-date career advice you’re going to get for dealing with a down-in-the-dumps job market.

Penelope Trunk wants you to know that having a baby is way better than the usual means of escapism (read: grad school), that you can avoid leaving a job to have a baby if you don’t have a job to leave, and that “The biological clock trumps career aspirations.” Her arguments are facile, necessarily brief for this short column. She says grad school isn’t worth it, there’s no wage gap anyway(!), and, really, the clock is ticking so you better get baby-making right now.

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August 19, 2010

In-Flight Entertainment

by d

This chick's got the right idea.

I love kids. I want to have kids of my own. For the most part, I understand them and forgive them their foibles.

But, kids are people, too. And people are assholes.

I’m on the plane out west, sitting next to two kids, brother and sister, traveling on their own. When I got on, they were all settled in with their blankets, looking a little forlorn. I was quite willing to be their in-flight attendant, lend a helping hand if they needed it. I’d seen their worried mom at the gate. I was supposed to get the window seat but the kids got there first, and, really, aisle is better.

When the little girl (who is small enough to curl up sideways in a seat) had her shoe-clad foot against my leg, I wrote it off. Too young to know better.

Then, apropos of nothing, she turns to me and looks right at me, like I am her official babysitter. “I’m thirsty,” she says, looking at me plaintively. Mom made sure they had snacks, but nothing to drink.

“That sucks,” I say sympathetically. (Oh, shit, what if I just says ‘sucks’ to a Mormon child?) “I’m sure once we take off the flight attendants will bring you something.”

A while later, “Will you buy us a snack?”

Will I what?

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July 30, 2010

Famous Last Words

by V

via Flickr

Has anyone ever heard this phrase before? I’m willing to bet that if you have, you’re probably female. And it was probably after you said you were never getting married or you were never going to have kids, or both.

Even today, with as far as our society has come so far, it still has further to go. Women are still viewed as baby factories. Nobody believes it if you say that you aren’t going to have children. They come up with annoying little things to tell you that they don’t, too! Such as the one I used for the title of this piece.

I’m someone who really is not interested in ever getting married or having children. But, right now, I’m going to focus on the having kids part, because that seems to be the strangest out of the two for people to hear. They just can’t believe that a girl wouldn’t want to have children.

Women, and even young girls, are constantly under pressure to have children one day. I can’t count the amount of times that I’ve heard women say that all of their friends were having children, so they felt pressure not to be the last one to have a child.

I’m sorry, but what a ridiculous reason to have a baby.

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July 20, 2010

And I Took It

by V

via Flickr user pitzyper

This is something I really haven’t talked much about, not since I was in my brooding early and mid teens. And even then I don’t think I honestly ever delved very deeply into it.

When I was a kid, I was a follower and not a leader. Growing up I was not one of the In crowd. I wasn’t even belonging to one of the Outcast crowds. I had my own special form of Outcast crowd of which I was the only member. To this day, I don’t know why.

Most of my friends back then were only friends with me when it was convenient for them. In other words, when nobody else was around to see and when they were bored enough, I was good to be friends with and do things with.

I had one friend in particular, whom I’ll call P. She and I were best friends. Okay, let me rephrase this. She was my friend when it suited her, and I was so desperate to have someone to play with and hang out with that I generally took whatever she dished out at me. She and I first met when we were in first grade, and we remained “friends” until she was 13 and I was 14. 

She sometimes would invite me over when she had other friends over with her. But, this was not to share in a play date. Not really. This was because they were bored and they wanted me to be around to gang up on. And she would be right there in the middle of it, laughing about it, cheering them on, purposely lying right in front of me because she knew they either wouldn’t care or wouldn’t believe me if I said it was a lie, and she would actively participate in the name-calling and even (with certain friends of hers) hitting, grabbing, shoving, or pulling.

And I took it.

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July 7, 2010

Financial Idiot Yells at Kids for Giving Away Free Lemonade

by f

Shaddup, wiseguy. It's free if I say it's free!

Apparently, financial experts know how to piss on just about everything.

In the latest on financial irresponsibility, girls at a lemonade stand tried to give away lemonade for on the side of the road for free — but not if Terry Savage had anything to say about it. She parked her car in front of the stand, rolled down her window, and gave those girls everything she had.

I pushed the button to roll down the window and stuck my head out to set them straight.

“You must charge something for the lemonade,” I explained. “That’s the whole point of a lemonade stand. You figure out your costs — how much the lemonade costs, and the cups — and then you charge a little more than what it costs you, so you can make money. Then you can buy more stuff, and make more lemonade, and sell it and make more money.”

(Yes, you go Terry! Do capture that American entrepreneurial spirit!)

And you have to admire the sheer uncorrupted nature of these kids. When, — after that overblown explanation of capitalism and free-market principles — Ms. Savage asked them how much she’d be charged, they insisted on giving the lemonade to her for free.

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July 7, 2010

Congrats Mikhaela, we will miss you!

by d

Mikhaela E. Reade is one of my favorite political cartoonists. For the past eight years she has blogged weekly cartoons eviscerating the stupid, racist, sexist, homophobic, right-wing, trickle-down Reaganomics bullshit that goes on in the world. She’s been published in newspapers, magazines, and online, has won awards and was even elected Vice-President of the Association of American Editorial Cartoonists.

She’s currently on hiatus, simplifying her life and taking time to regroup. Oh, and she and her husband have just had the most adorable little girl, born last month. As my mother says, life moves in phases, and you focus on different things at different times. We want to wish Mikhaela, Masheka, and Baby Z well.

Meantime, here are some excellent Mikhaela comics for you to enjoy. And please consider buying her book, as that would certainly help them with baby expenses.

View her whole archive on Flickr.

Thanks for the comics, Mikhaela. We look forward to hearing from you again!

May 18, 2010

Rachel Maddow is Teh Awesome

by f

[…] my favorite Rachel Maddow story involves my daughter and her first Barbie Doll.

Rachel came to my daughter’s third birthday party, and presented my daughter with a blonde haired Barbie with it’s hair cropped short and dressed in a Ken Doll Tuxedo.

Rachel referred to her as “Barbie in comfortable shoes”.

My daughter loved that Barbie doll, and the graduates at Smith College loved Rachel Maddow on Sunday.

– Scott Coen

You all should give Maddow’s speech a watch, here. I loved the analogy to Carrie Nation’s stupidity — it was such an apt message, all of it, and there’s nothing about this woman that I do not absolutely love.

February 18, 2010

Your Happy Little Accident, My Traumatic Mishap

by d

The DailyMail is a paragon of trash, there’s no sense in pretending otherwise. It’s a tabloid. Thanks to the Internet, I can now browse their car wreck of a front page whenever I want. After this evening, I’m quite sure I never want to again.

The Daily Mail’s Leah Hardy opines:

Of course we women don’t want a male pill – it would end those happy little ‘accidents’

That headline makes my stomach churn. It implies deceit, selfishness, and a cavalier attitude that is unforgivable.

Imagine, for a moment, that you know of a couple who are undecided about having a baby. It doesn’t matter if it would be their first or fifth child, they just aren’t sure about having one right now. Maggie is on the pill, and every night she pauses before swallowing the next. She wonders, should she skip it tonight? Should she tell John she is ready for this, and just not fill next month’s prescription?
In the end, John makes the decision for her. He swaps her pills for candy. In two weeks, she is knocked up, and confused.
John has stolen Maggie’s right to choose. If this scenario doesn’t anger you, it should. If you’re pro-abortion, you’re probably fuming, wishing you could give John a swift kick to the nuts.
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