Posts tagged ‘death’

September 16, 2010

Trapped in the Memories

by V
trapped and always looking behind

via Flickr

Hearing old country music makes me sad. I remember listening to it all with my grandpa. I miss him so much. I wish he were still alive. I’d live all the bad times in my life over again just to experience the times we were able to be around each other, to know each other, to do things together again. I’d live all the bad times in my life many more times over, and just those times, if it could bring him back. Of course, nothing can do that.

I feel lost and incomplete, alone now that he’s gone. I dream about him, I am reminded of him by almost every older man with a beard remotely like his. There is not a moment, waking or sleeping, when I am not thinking of him in some way. Everywhere I look, everywhere I turn, and even when I sleep. I compare all men to him, I compare myself to him.

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September 13, 2010

The Rules

by f

the Godavari in Andhra Pradesh, via Flickr user kcheevious

This is my first real post in my series of posts on India. I promise I’ll actually follow through with the series this time. I have so, so much to say.

Aside from an awesome ninja airline employee who allows us to clear every security check in a matter of seconds — and an annoying dipshit who sits in front of me and reclined her chair into my knees for the duration of the flight — the flight is uneventful.

When I reach, the house is calm. It is a deceptive calm. My grandmother start crying a little when she sees my father, but she holds it together. My mother hates her in-laws so she skulks at the back, putting suitcases away.

Our house is a fortress. It is humongous and in a neighborhood surrounded by other bungalows. Most of the neighbors live in tacky monstrosities that exist between fetid piles of garbage. Actually, my grandmother’s is not so much tacky as it is a hodgepodge collection of granite boxes squished together by an inhuman fist.

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August 13, 2010

We’ve lost a shining star

by subterfusex

Our hearts reach out to the Indian Homemaker, one of our dearest friends on the blogosphere. Her daughter Tejaswee passed away on August 11th from dengue fever.

We here at Subterfuge Magazine want to help her in any way we can. If the Indian Homemaker decides that she and her husband would like to start a scholarship in her name, we pledge to do everything we can to fundraise.

Tejaswee Rao was a very smart and caring young woman whose future was hers for the taking. Her brightness bursts from each and every post on her excellent blog. She showed a sensitivity to issues and caring far beyond her years. She is a shining example for young womanhood, and we are deeply sad to hear that she has left us so soon. We mourn her because she had so much left to give us.

When we say that the future of women is important, it starts with people like Tejaswee. She espouses the spirit of our message here at Subterfuge.

When we read her letter to her future daughter we feel her warmth and compassion when it came to the years ahead of her.  We know that when you do, you will see the best of what the future has to offer us … and though she might not be there to see it, it will because of others like her that our future looks so wonderful.

Our thoughts are with her parents and family.

Rest in peace, Tejaswee.

Love,

your editors at Subterfuge

July 5, 2010

Things that can’t be magicked away.

by f

Afshan Azad

If you haven’t read this already, do it now:

Harry Potter Actress’s Brother, Father Allegedly Attempt to Kill Her.

The father and brother of a Harry Potter actress has been charged with threatening to kill the 22-year-old at her Manchester, England, home, prosecutors said Friday.

Afshan Azad, who appeared in four Potter movies as Harry’s classmate Padma Patil, was allegedly attacked May 21 because her family, who are Muslim, did not approve of her relationship with a Hindu man, according to a spokesman for the Crown Prosecution Service.

Update: a very sketchy report by the Daily Mail alleges that Afshan dropped the charges, but it’s important to note that it’s not a good idea to trust the Daily Mail if it’s only available source.

The first thing I noticed about this case — and this is about Afshan in particular, and not about the horrific larger issue of “honor” killings — is that Afshan is so young. Really, she’s not much older than my younger brother. She’s a kid. And she starred in the Harry Potter movies. That’s second only to being a candied Disney teen music-making money machine like Miley Cyrus … (wait, whoops!)

I mean, Afshan’s not a kid in the legal sense of the term, but please. I know parents. I have a couple of them. They don’t consider me grown and probably won’t until, at the very least, I start running my own household. Though Afshan Azad is a very successful young woman, she’s from a close-knit Bangladeshi family, so financial solvency may not have translated into actual independence for her. And when she did something that was against her social mores — ie, dating a Hindu — her father tried to kill her.

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