October 18, 2010
I just got back from an excellent event at the old alma mater. (Dan Savage! I think I nearly died from the star shock!)
Tomorrow, I have a free morning, so I’ll write about it then. I need some time to think about everything. The talk — the subsequent conversations — everything — has simultaneously excited and drained me.
These are my impressions:
He was impressive in person. After eating bolis with my sisters — plus one boyfriend! — five of us headed over to the student center for the Dan Savage talk.
There were lots of curious people in the audience. The hall was PACKED. You could see everybody there just waiting for him to start talking, and when he did it was a rapidfire humor fest with a lot of salient points about motivation and activism. I felt inspired while listening to him. Throughout the speech I sat on the edge of my seat, straight-backed. I’d intended on taking notes but I couldn’t even stretch to take out my notebook; my memories are clear enough.
And yes, there were three references to Rick Santorum. I counted.
It was the perfect cherry on top of an amazing day I spent with W on our old campus. It’s a beautiful place even if it has moved beyond us. The sadness of the past met the purpose of the present so masterfully I can’t help but view the day through the lens of bittersweet fiction.
October 16, 2010
I’m sorry I’ve been away. Though my stomach problems have continued through the week, I think I’m starting to recover now. (Knock on wood — I was bad and had a limoncello mousse with graham cracker crust, though, so my progress remains to be seen.)
I’ll get back to the business of writing about things in earnest.
Before the hour strikes midnight, though, I want to share two important things with you.
Three days ago, Dan Savage answered a question from a Christian reader who claimed that although he condemned homosexuality, he did not support violence against gay teens. Savage’s response was swift, brutal, and awesome.
A question: Do you “support” atheist marriage? Interfaith marriage? Divorce and remarriage? All are legal, all go against Christian and/or traditional ideas about marriage, and yet there’s no “Christian” movement to deny marriage rights to atheists or people marrying outside their respective faiths or people divorcing and remarrying.
Why the hell not?
Sorry, L.R., but so long as you support the denial of marriage rights to same-sex couples, it’s clear that you do believe that some people—straight people—are “better or more worthy” than others.
It gets better from there. Savage also says that considering gay people as “unworthy of full civil equality” is equal to the claim that gays are unequal and therefore less worthy than straight people (countering an assertion made by the OP in the last line of his letter).
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October 14, 2010
Dan Savage is one of my favorite people. I never miss a Savage Love column.
He is a gay man, in a long-term relationship with his partner. They have a son. They are a happy, stable, loving family.
But their lives weren’t always so pleasant.
And that is why Dan has founded the It Gets Better Project, to reach out to young people who feel hopeless. It is for LGBTQ kids, but also for anyone who has suffered bullying or public shaming. The message is simple, and heartfelt. It gets better. You won’t always in middle or high school, you won’t always live with a family that doesn’t understand. The plea is wrought with emotion: Stick around, don’t give up on life before it can get better!
Below the cut are embedded videos, amazing videos submitted by people who want to tell kids that it gets better. Or, watch them all here: http://www.youtube.com/user/itgetsbetterproject
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July 2, 2010
Plenty of people have issues with the concept of ‘designer babies.’ Advances in medical technology may one day make it possible to select or splice gametes in a way that allows us to predetermine features of our children. There are plenty of horrific potential scenarios–a world full of blondes, everyone’s super-smart so no one’s smart anymore, the homogeneity…
But what if you could determine whether or not your child will be gay?
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March 15, 2010
I often hope that I’ll be inspired to write one of these entries. Usually I’m scoping out Savage Love or TheFrisky for that. I didn’t expect to find it in xkcd:
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December 14, 2009
We’ll be posting chats about specific subjects pertinent to sex and the art of subterfuge. We find that it’s good to hash out perspectives. Comment away and add to the discussion!
D: I was thinking the next would be a response to Dan Savage’s column this week, but there’s nothing in it that I want to comment on. You might, it goes into infidelity.
S: Yeah, he’s pretty big on respecting sexual fulfillment. Don’t quite know how I feel about [opening relationships]. I admit it kind of makes me uncomfortable to think about that possibility. Makes me typical, I guess. Hmm.
D: I see it as something for couples who have been together for a long time, are established, are otherwise very happy and do not want to end their marriage.
S: Yeah. it sounds nice in theory. But I’m not sure how I would feel if ever that applied to me. Here, read this: What if you’re one of these and you just don’t know what to do about the problem?
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December 9, 2009
Television has provided me with fodder today.
First up, Rachel Maddow got (justifiably) angry tonight. She interviewed Richard Cohen, a man who claims to have thought himself out of being gay and now uses pseudo-psychology to ‘help’ others do the same. This would be bad enough, but apparently Uganda is using his work to justify a new law that will allow them to execute homosexuals. Serious WTF moment, Uganda!
The interview is interesting for a number of reasons:
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