Archive for ‘feminine vs. masculine’

January 3, 2011

A Heroine of Another Weight

by d

Desire Me (detail)It seems romance writers are more progressive than modelling agencies.

Sarah at Smart Bitches, Trashy Books has just posted an entry about the changes in physical descriptions of heroines in romance novels over time.

My first encounters with female beauty in books was, as @joyabella noted when I asked this question on Twitter, the Wakefield twins. So many women found their gateway to romance in Sweet Valley High, and that gateway came with the constantly repeated and thus unfortunately inculcated reference to the “perfect size six figure.”

First, let me say on behalf of every woman with breasts and a backside: Fuck you and your six.

(Have I mentioned that I ADORE the Smart Bitches? Because I do, oh so much.)

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December 27, 2010

Femme Funnies (?): Burka Woman

by d

This one is loaded with controversy. A Pakistani comedian has put together a music video spoofing the classic “Oh, Pretty Woman” by Roy Orbison.

Personally, I think the concept is awesome. I’m always up for satire, and I think it’s most needed where people don’t want it.

Some people say it’s derogatory toward these women, that it mocks Islam, that it will sour relations with the West, that it will “only create further divisions and friction within Pakistan.” All of that is true, and none of it is true. I get the sense that this video was done with great affection, as well as criticism for, the customs of Pakistan and Islam in general.

What are your thoughts? Hilarious send-up, or blight on social discourse?

December 23, 2010

Jan Brewer’s Idea of a Happy Holi–CHRISTMAS, I MEANT CHRISTMAS!

by d

Art by Linda Eddy

Gov. Jan Brewer of Arizona, infamous for legislating against “non-citizens” and denying organ transplants to people who were previously approved for them, wants to wish everyone a Merry Christmas. This image appeared on her Facebook page this past week.

I’m trying to figure out where my outrage should begin and where it should wrap up. I already had good cause to despise this woman, but she seems determined to not only continue to do wicked things, but to do them in the most public and ballsy fashion she can.

To recap: Jan Brewer became governor of Arizona after Obama selected then-governor Janet Napolitano to serve in his administration. Brewer made national headlines when she signed a law in April of 2010. Essentially, the law granted police the ability–nay, the obligation–to ask anyone, anytime, if they have paperwork proving they’re in this country legally. It’s clear this is directed at illegal immigrants of Hispanic origin, which Arizona has plenty of. Despite the public uproar, Brewer has remained unapologetic.

More recently, Brewer cut funding to a state program similar to Medicaid. Nearly 100 low income patients have now been denied vital organ transplants. Brewer has gone on record as calling these “Cadillac” surgeries.

So you see why Brewer is not my favorite person. Now she posts this image.

So lets just make a list of all the reasons Brewer is the last person to make my Christmas any cheerier.

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December 17, 2010

Interview: Alissa Jo Rindels, Part 3

by subterfusex

This is the third part of Alissa’s interview. In this segment, we discuss the larger context of her work, and how it relates to the mission of our site. We asked her questions pertaining to gender and personal artistic decisions. She answered us — as always — very honestly. As we wind down this interview, we’d like to thank Alissa once again for her participation and for the chance to talk about her amazing work.

What does “feminism” mean for you, and would you consider yourself a feminist?

Overall, I do believe in what feminism stands for. Everyone wants equal rights. I think feminism has gotten a bad rap, really; growing up the first thing I thought of when I thought of a “feminist” were the extremists who burned bras and were avid “man haters”.

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December 15, 2010

Interview: Alissa Jo Rindels, Part 2

by subterfusex

As we brainstormed questions for Alissa’s interview, both of us wanted to address the inspired quality we found in Alissa’s art. We found traces of this inspiration everywhere, from the elegant Grecian forms of her Greek gods and goddesses series, to other complex mythological characters.

Alissa wrote us insightful  — and often surprising — answers to these questions, and we are happy to share them with you in our second installment.


Where do you get your inspiration? Who are your muses?

As a kid, I read a lot of comic books, watched a lot of anime, and I surround myself with Tim Burton and Quentin Tarantino films. I also read A LOT, see a lot of movies and am an iTunes junkie. I constantly surf the net, admiring other artists’ work. I really just look for inspiration anywhere and everywhere I can get it.

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December 10, 2010

Women in Aprons (via An Attitude Adjustment)

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Grilled Ham and Cheese Sandwich

She mentions grilled cheese, so Zemanta insists we have a picture of some. ...is that ham? Image via Wikipedia

Over at An Attitude Adjustment, Staying At Home For Now mom Jana feels like a kindred spirit. She’s an English teacher, but layoffs coincided with the birth of her second child so she’s decided to make the most of it. While she cherishes the opportunity to spend time with her young children, she also feels the need for something more than that. The blog is her outlet. As she says, this period in her life won’t last forever, but she’s in it now and she’s going to take advantage of it.

Her latest post has been recognized by the WP selection staff. The title caught my eye: Women in Aprons.

Jana points out that cooking is In. Everyone’s going organic, everyone wants to be healthier and feed their families good food. She’s all for that. What she objects to is the insidious implication that women are failing in their ‘roles.’ Everything is directed at women, not men.

This post made the Freshly Pressed board for a reason.

Women in Aprons There’s a food revolution going on. You may have noticed. Books about eating organic food abound the shelves of your local bookstore. Writers of those books appear on countless talk-shows. High-fructose corn syrup has become a term synonymous with devil. And I am one of those foodies. Sort of. While I ate only grilled cheese sandwiches for the second five years of my life (and still grew), I now like things like brussels sprouts, green beans, and … Read More

via An Attitude Adjustment

November 16, 2010

The Art of Gift Giving

by d

What if I want a Quicker Picker Upper?

I have one rule for gifts, both given and received. The person receiving should want it.

This week I had an interesting conversation with a friend of mine. We were talking about this guy she knows, and how she was hoping he’d do something nice for her birthday. She wasn’t entirely sure he’d figure it out, though. He has a bad track record. In the past, he’s given his girlfriend… a cookbook, and… a vacuum cleaner.

Pause and think about this. A cookbook and a vacuum cleaner. Different years, not at the same time.

My friend contends that this is never, ever an appropriate gift, especially for a birthday.

I can think of a number of excellent reasons why they’re damn well shitty birthday gifts:

  1. Household appliances are a household expense. Don’t act like you’re doing me a favor.
  2. Don’t think I’m some 1950s housefrau who swoons at the sight of a new set of tupperware.
  3. There is always the subtle implication that I should use these items. Hint, hint.

In the particular case we were discussing. #3 is very relevant, as the girlfriend is allegedly very lazy and does nothing to help out. Giving her these things is a highly insulting passive aggressive way of saying, “You need to do more for this household.”

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November 5, 2010

My son is gay (via Nerdy Apple Bottom)

by d

I’m re-blogging this because it’s important, and it’s awesome.

This blogger, Nerdy Apple Blossom, has a son who is five years old. He wanted to be Daphne for Halloween this year. She had no problem with it, and he was initially ecstatic. It was only as the big day approached that he began to worry. She reassured him, but he still feared that he would be laughed at.

Instead of children teasing other children (which may not have had the ‘you’re gay and going to HELL!’ connotation) they were BOTH treated to a round of busybody mothers who felt it was their business to critique.

NAB’s response is wonderful. Her son is going to grow up to be a brave, confident young man, because he has witnessed his mother do that very thing. I hope he was able to enjoy the rest of the day. And I hope he got LOTS of candy.

My son is gay

My son is gay.

Or he’s not. I don’t care. He is still my son. And he is 5. And I am his mother. And if you have a problem with anything mentioned above, I don’t want to know you. I have gone back and forth on whether I wanted to post something more in-depth about my sweet boy and his choice of Halloween costume. Or more specifically, the reactions to it. I figure if I’m still irked by it a few days later, I may as well go ahead and post my thoughts. Here are th … Read More

via Nerdy Apple Bottom

November 4, 2010

Talking With Your Sister Makes You Happier

by d
Two Sisters

Image via Wikipedia

So, is it the fact that you have a sister that makes you happier? Is it just talking to a sister? Is it something about the way you treat a sister or the way she treats you?

Actually, Deborah Tannen of the NY Times theorizes that it is the quantity of talk that has such a big impact:

The usual answer — that girls and women are more likely than boys and men to talk about emotions — is somehow unsatisfying, especially to a researcher like me. Much of my work over the years has developed the premise that women’s styles of friendship and conversation aren’t inherently better than men’s, simply different.

My own recent research about sisters suggests a more subtle dynamic. I interviewed more than 100 women about their sisters, but if they also had brothers, I asked them to compare. Most said they talked to their sisters more often, at greater length and, yes, about more personal topics. This often meant that they felt closer to their sisters, but not always.

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November 2, 2010

RAF or RYE Part 4

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Woman aircraft worker, Vega Aircraft Corporation, Burbank, Calif. Shown checking electrical assemblies (LOC)

via Flickr

I’m back again for (probably) the last installment of this running commentary on TTH’s Romancing a Feminist post. The URL for the actual post can be found here.

The URL for this particular portion of the comments can be found here.

Now, on with the commentary!

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